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I don’t know why I keep on trying at this dating game. Well, actually I do know, I am hoping it is a numbers game and the more men I meet the more likely I am to meet someone that I will click with and have a great relationship with. But, right now, I am finding that the guys with great hearts, can’t satisfy my physical needs and the guys who could possibly satisfy my physical needs don’t have a heart. Why does there have to be a choice? I am sure there is someone who will fit with me in those two ways and more. It has happened before in my life. Unfortunately, the relationships did not last. Then there is always the possibility that I have had my great love/loves in my life and need to appreciate what I had when I had it and stop expecting and hoping to have it again. But at 48, I sure hate to think my love life is over…. I refuse to accept that idea at all! I have too much to offer (I hope).
Today is Tommy’s birthday. Any of you who are regular readers know the impact of that. I sent two birthday cards and as expected, heard nothing and I know for my heart’s sake, that is the best thing that could happen. I have tried to keep my mind from wandering and thinking he is celebrating it with another woman after he and I shared such a great New Years Eve. But, I am not going to dwell on that. I read in one of Joel Osteen’s books that when God allows people and relationships to end or leave your life, it means they were no longer good for you and you should let that go and let God do His new thing. That is what I am trying to do. I want to be a better person all the way around, not just with my love life and I am trying to concentrate more on that than just my love life.
Love,
Lucy
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Lucy,
I know you have needs as we all do,but since you read Joel Osteen’s book, I’m sure you know that God wants us to refrain from premarital sex. Premarital sex usually causes pain when few people marry their first. It’s best to wait on God to send you the right man for you because if you don’t let His will be done, there is a good chance you’ll repeat the same mistake as you did with Tommy. You need to know that you’re worthy of a good Godly man who will give you the love and respect that you deserve. Also, be the partner you wish to have. What I mean is, have the qualities of the partner you desire and he wil come and he’ll be worth the wait. In the mean time work on being the best you, you can be so you’ll be whole and ready for this guy.
GG
Hi GG,
I agree whole heartedly and that is what I am working on. I do not want another man if he is not sent by God. Dating doesn’t mean having sex. Even in today’s society, a girl can and does say NO and mean it. Thank you for your wise words and for reading my blog.
Love Lucy
Hi Lucy,
since you mentioned physical needs, I assumed you meant sex since that’s usually what that term indicates. However, I’m glad you’ve decided to wait on God because He’s ready when you are. I thought about something today. Sometimes we really need to give the nice guy a chance even if we think he’s not our type because that might just be the one. I tend to look at a guy from the inside out. He has to have a realtionship with God. That is first and foremost then we need to be great friends before building a romance. Hope you have a blessed day.
GG
I think I am going to go against the grain here a bit…
I think God has very little to do with you being satisfied with your choice of man.
I think the problem lies internally. You might be rejecting the nice guy simply because the bad guy is more attractive. This is related to an internal need for something negative. A sexual attraction based on internal dislike, pretty common…
Not to mention, what the heck are you doing in a long distance relationship!! Is it because it is safe??