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I came home this evening and while getting ready for a first date with a new fella I stopped to check my e-mail. It felt like someone punched me in the stomach and knocked the breath out of me!! There, on my screen was Tommy’s screen name and his “connections” Peggy and Starr. OMGosh. That hurt me so much. I thought about it alot while I was on my date and when I got back home from my date decided to delete any and all contacts associated with Tommy. That way, I don’t know who or what he is doing and hopefully, without any reminders, I won’t think of him as much and will not have to endure that terrible pain. I mailed his card you know and I’m guessing he got it today. I will be glad when this obesession with him passes! I hope it doesn’t take too much longer. Thanks for listening. I welcome your comments.
Lucy
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Lucy,
you are the only one who can stop your obsession. If a guy really wants to be with you then he will do what it takes. He will always make you a priority. TRust me when I tell you that if you ask God to give you the strength to move on from Tommy, He will grant you that request because Gods wants the best for us and Tommy is not the best for you. If you think you’re worth it then some other guy will think you’re worth it too and he’ll make the effort to give you all that you need in a relationship. I think you should take a break from dating and work on yourself because you can only change yourself. You cannot change any of these guys that obviously need help. I wish you well in your endeavor to find love. I know it’s hard but not impossible to find that wonderful guy.
I know exactly how you feel. I was dating this guy I went to high school with that I found after 19 years and we had a bad breakup. After we started seeing eachother I found out he was married, but he said not happily and that he was getting divorced (this was another reason for our breakup). The night after our breakup I decided to go out with some friends (which I rarely do) and lo and behold who walks in the very bar I am at???? The guy I just broke up with – towing behind him was his WIFE!!!!!!!!! I couldnt get him off my mind and I still cant for the life of me and I just wish I could not even remember e exists!!!!
Hi Melanie,
If you figure out how to stop those memories from surfacing please, by all means, let me know. I have to make a conscieous effort not to think about him and when I do that, I’m thinking about him! I have to laugh at myself for being so stupid and when I feel the pain rising in my heart, I just stuff it back down and refuse to acknowledge it. I know it will come out sometime, probably when I least expect it but I have to control it when I can. I wish you the best and hope your memories and your pain are short lived.
Thank you for reading and commenting, it means alot to me.
Lucy