New Love Blogger :: Lucy Loveless, I have been married and divorced 3 times and have 2 daughters, one step-daughter, one step son-in-law and one precious grandson. I feel I have experienced true love 3 times in my life and two of those times, I did not marry the men. I admit I am still trying to figure out the complexity of relationships between men and women and find that journaling is a huge help and maybe it would help others as well.

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Till We Meet is a poem which I wrote long back.. approximately 4-5 years back. Today, i m dedicating this poem of mine to my Rasna Boy and I hope one day we’ll meet soon

With this… I even want to say… I m missing u sooooo very much

Till We Meet…

Till we meet,

Time will just crawl,

The days will be spent in day-dreaming,

The nights in fantasy-land!

My heart beats at a slower pace,

Except when I hear your voice;

At first I was a little frightened

to share myself with you,

But you soon laid all my fears to rest.

Till we meet,

I know that I’ll miss you every moment of the day,

Minutes seem to be hours,

Hours run into months

Each month seems to stretch into eternity...

Sacrifices and compromises are the order of the day,

But hopefully one day, they too shall be gone.

I look up at the stars in the sky,

But I guess they’ll only sparkle brightly when I’m with you.

Till we meet,

Through the fog that envelops me,

I stare, sightless at the horizon knowing that you are right there,

The food I eat, tasteless,

Till you are there by my side to share it with;

I am tempted to drink myself into oblivion,

Hoping that will send me spinning into orbit

And maybe land in a place close to you...

Where your waiting arms gather me close, never to let go...

Till we meet,

I will not feel whole, my world seems incomplete,

Am waiting for that glorious day

When our eyes first make contact,

And recognize each other instantly,

Wide smiles on our faces, almost breaking into a run

To cover the remaining distance and turn it into closeness.

Our hearts and souls collide in blissful memories

Of words oft-spoken virtually, but now translated into reality,

”I love you”....the words will take on another dimension,

Au revoir till we meet again in the real world..!!  

It’s not been long enough since when I have known “him”.. merely just 3 months.. out of which from last 2 months both of us have been pretty close to each other..

I am here just to introduce you to my “Rasna Boy”.. who and what actually he is.. I don’t know how far do I “really know” him.. but whatever I know about him is all here..!!

“The Rasna Boy”… more of a “mumma’s boy”.. as generally boys are..!! He’s working in Merchant Navy (presently as a 2nd mate officer)..

One of those guys who are pretty headstrong (that’s what he believes)..!! So much of jovial kind who speaks utter rubbish through out the day.. You would rarely find him talking sensible enough. Wherever he is, he spreads laughter all around.

People think he is pretty notorious.. always pulling legs.. but he has that innocence of a kid along with his naughty attitude.

He is indeed quite helpful.. quite caring and believes in leading a disciplined life (but only when on job). When he is back home in the vacations, he is pretty indisciplined than anyone else in this world.

He’s my “honey bunch”, “sugarplum”, “pumpy-umpy-umpkin”, “sweet-pie”, “cuppy cake”, “gumdrop”, “snoogums-boogums”, “apple of my eye”, “sweetheart”, “idiot”, “rasna boy”, “shrupz”, “female bhaloooo” and sooooooo many moreee niks.

He’s the reason of my smile. Whenever I find him online or whenever my phone rings (with his number on the display), my heart starts beating at a higher pace and I start feeling so nervous. I haven’t still been able to configure out “why”…??!!

I always dreamt of a “boy” in my life who would possess the following characteristics –

• Career-Oriented
• One with a superb english accent
• Quite focused in everything he does
• Decisive (unlike me)

I have found all these qualities in him.

I never gave much priority to looks ever.. but then by God’s grace, this “beast of mine” is pretty good-looking as well (I havn’t ever told him that my heart skips a beat whenever I see his snap).

In a nutshell,

He’s a rare cut diamond with a billion sides to his personality…!!

While walking the walk of life.. the way that we meet new people.. so
did I meet him .. but in a virtual net world..!! For long we did not have
much talks.. It was all about Hi and Hellos..!! But then there was the first
time.. that our ‘real’ conversation started.. n it was merely 5 days that I
got so addicted to him.. n i guess even he got… may be..!!

Once I just asked him for a favor of mailing me some ‘good music.. and it
all started with the music business.. he kept on mailing me loads of songs
and that made us keep in touch..!! While the songs were being transferred…
we used to talk.. and talk for hours and hours.. through the nights..!! He
used to be awake late nights.. though never had been in that habit.. n all
that happened in the nights was the transferring of songs and our
gossips..!! The best part of it was that our gossips never had a topic.. all
was meaningless.. just pulling each others legs.. laughing and acting
weird..!! All this continued for just five days.. and the next day he was to
leave for his job..!! I knew that he’ll be gone for a year now.. and that
there would be no more song transfers and no more night gossips.. but all
this didn’t bother me much.. I never realized how close we had gotten in
these five days. But it was that night.. the last night.. when he just said
“I’ll miss you” .. It was then when my heart skipped a beat.. It was then when my eyes got wet. It was then that I realized that he’d be gone.. It was then that I realized that one year would be too long.. It was then that I realized that five days of conversation was all I had to live by waiting
for 365 days to pass by.. He’d be on ship.. No place to call, no way to chat
and mail.. no way to keep in touch while he’ll be sailing.. It was that
night that I weeped for hours and I felt so helpless..!!

Then that night for the first time we exchanged our phone numbers, just to
have an sms chat.. I kept on deleting his sms after reading.. but those
words.. in each and every sms of his.. are still in my heart and mind..
those words where in he first gave me an ‘abnormal hug’.. where in he first gave me ‘the mummie kisses’.. where in he said ‘you are the one who takes out the best and the worst in me’.. where in he whispered ‘How much I wished I could come to your place right now and meet you’.. all the words still ring in my heart.. they still make me smile..

The next morning.. the morning when he was to leave.. that was the morning
when I first heard his voice.. I was sooo nervous but tried my best to make him feel comfortable enough while having a first talk with me. It was a very
short call.. just a call in which I could which him a ‘Happy Journey’.. but
that first call is everything for me.. for it was the first time I heard his
so subtle and soothing voice..!

He then landed to another city.. and again gave me a call from the airport..
and we talked for 45 minutes before his next boarding call. We did tell that
we are missing each other.. but I wish i could tell him somehow.. how badly
I had been missing him..!

And then he landed in a different country.. and there at the airport he had the internet facility.. but interested people had to stand in a queue to
access the net for just 10 minutes.. He stood in the queue for five hours.. every time waiting for just 10 minutes to talk to me.. after the end of every ten minutes he again stood in the queue..! They had no facility to sit even while accessing the net.. and ‘my honey bunch’ kept on standing for five hours though being so tired after a day’s journey..! And then he got his next boarding call and he left finally..! He reached the ship..!!

I am so very much thankful to the Almighty for somehow making ways possible for our conversation..!! He is now on ship.. but we are still in contact..! We just chat for a few minutes, but then that means a lot to me.. because I knew that for next one year I wouldn’t have been able to hear a single word from him..!!

We are still friends and will forever be.. but still there is this extra
special feeling in my heart for him.. I want to speak it out.. I want him to
know certain things he doesn’t.. I want to explore my life with him.. but I
just can’t let it out.. for there are certain reasons that keep me holding
back..!!

I hope one day he understands that there is someone who ‘really loves’ him.. and that how hard ’she’ may try.. ’she’ just can’t speak it out… The intensity of the love that ’she’ holds in ‘her’ heart for ‘him’ is not that easy to be put into words..

If you read this.. then do understand.. there is someone waiting for you to
get back..!! There is someone who wishes to say so much.. and there is
someone who needs you forever..!! That “someone” is none other than ‘Me’

Are we designed to Cheat?
One of the main concerns most people have when it comes to a romantic relationship, is whether or not their partner will stay faithful to them. We often never stop to ask ourselves if we will be able to stay faithful to our partners, but instead shift all our focus on our partners, as if they are the only one who will face that temptation.

Do all people cheat eventually? Is it an evitable act that is sure to happen sooner or later because we are designed by nature to mate with a lot of partners to reproduce?

There is bad and good news here. Like life in general, relationships come with a package of both bad and good things. Positive and negative go hand in hand in life and it is something we all have to learn and accept as a part of our lives. Rather than fight it, we should embrace both the good and bad that comes into our lives and use it to help us grow wiser and achieve a truly healthy and solid that can truly be based on honesty, trust and understanding.

The truth is, we all will feel attracted to several people in our lifetime. Some of us will feel attracted to a lot of other people, while the rest will only feel attracted to a selected few. Regardless of which one you are, the point is- we all feel attracted to other people besides our partner. Does this mean we will all eventually be unfaithful? No, not at all! It does, however, mean that temptation will come around every now and then and it is the responsibility of both partners to recognize those temptations when do they come along, so they can be dealt with in the best way possible.

Read the rest of Alina’s article here.

Keeping Love Healthy with Money Problems Money may not everything, but it also isn’t just anything. It helps us not only to survive, but also allows us to enjoy other luxuries and do many enjoyable things with the ones we love. Money also gives us the strength and confidence to chase after our dreams and assists us in making them come true.

When money is short such as in the credit crunch and debt is involved however, it can affect your romantic relationship, no matter how much you and your partner may love each other. This is because when you go from a life of comfort to a life of struggle and unwanted change, it creates stress for everyone involved and patience can be short. When patience is short, it causes people to be easily annoyed with each other and they tend to snap at each other quickly due to all the worries on their mind.

Can money problems and a credit crunch ruin a good romantic connection? It can- but it doesn’t have to! With all the financial trouble out there today, it is very likely you will find yourself in some money trouble sooner or later.

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