Wishing to be loved

I’m a 21 year old female and I’m searching for love. I am what you can say a “hopeless romantic”. I search and search for love but always come up short. For the last year and a half, I have dated a few men. Only one which was serious for me. I fell in love and for ten months, i was basically used for sex and entertainment. He made me promises that we were going to eventually make it offical, but that day never came. I never met his family. He had me over his house one day and when his sister got home, he told me to go in the other room. My feelings were definitely hurt. After some time, I ended our so-called relationship. However, I was still in love with him. I kept up with him on facebook although we weren’t friends on there. Within three weeks of us not talking, I saw that he was in a relationship and I was devastated. He even introduced her to his parents. From then on I have had a hard time trusting alot of people. And wasn’t all because of him, but also other issues that was going on in my life. But he definitely added to it.
A few months ago, I started to date this new guy. Well he wasn’t exactly new. I’ve known him personally since I was sixteen. We always had this thing for each ever since I began working with him. But of course because we worked with each other, it was harder for us to try to see if our friendship could go to the next level. After I quit my job (almost 3yrs later), he asked me out and I accepted. However, things did not quite work out that way. But earlier this year he asked me out again and again I accepted. We went out for a whole month but because of his work schedule and the fact that he has had a troubled relationship with his last girlfriend, it didn’t work out. I told him we could be friends, but in the back of mind I truly wanted it to be more. For three months I thought about him constantly. I even dated someone new, but I couldn’t form a relationship because I was always thinking about him. He hit me up on facebook a couple weeks before my 21st birthday and told me he could not thinking about me. Last weekend I met him up at a bar and got so sick to my stomach because he made so nervous. We had a wonderful night that I still can’t stop thinking about. Everyday I wake up thinking about him. Every night I go to sleep thinking about him. When he calls, I can’t help but smile. I think I’m falling for him and I’m scared because I really want it to work out. I’ve had bad luck with men in the last one and half years and I want this relationship to be different because I truly care about him. I don’t know what to do.

(Screen) Name: Hopeless_Romantic

Friendship and School and Boyfriend

I have a boyfriend and we are protective over each other and devote one self to each other. we dont go out much without each other and most certainly do not go out with the opposite sex without each other. but i am on study leave and my friends are forcing me to go out with them and they are going out with other guys. i told them i cant come because my boyfriend said no but now they arent talking to me properly and always keep forcing me to come out with them on friday. is it my fault and what shall i do?

(Screen) Name: School Leavers Day out

advice?

I dont know what to do about this. ive been falling for my boss who is 33 and i am 20. ive known him for 3 years, and i fall harder each day. he recently gave me his number and we talk constantly. we are so much alike, have so much in common. he hits on me all the time. other employee’s notice it and have said something to me about it. the work enviornment we have everyone is very close. does anybody think this is wrong? i mean, it feels so right to me. we are going to the movies tomorrow and i dont kknow if i should make a move, or let him do it. he talks about making a move but then takes it back in a smooth sort of way. im so confused on all this. i just need some feedback/advice, i think it would help alot. anyone who has something ignorant to say about it, dont waste your time.

(Screen) Name: notsowonderful

I eloped with an Arab.

I’m a white Christian woman who met a man from the Middle East online. First we communicated through emails, then on the phone and finally we met in person. . The thing is, we fell in love before meeting in person the first time. He is the kindest, smartest, funniest guy I have ever been with and I love him.
When we met in person, it was like we just knew we were meant for each other. Yes I’m Christian and he is Muslim. We had talked about some of the big issues that often come up with interfaith couples and I became extremely comfortable with him. He asked me to marry him, I said yes, and about 5 weeks later we got married.
The problem is one that is also typical for interfaith couples. My family, parents in particular, do not approve at all. Unfortunately , my financial situation is one in which I have to live with them with my youngest child for the time being. I am 34 years old and capable of deciding who the right man is for me.
They know I am seeing him. But they don’t know I eloped with him. I thought it would be easy to keep this a secret until I was ready to reveal it, but I find that it really isn’t.
I am not ashamed of him and me, in fact I want the world to know about us. But I do have this fear that if I do say something now, things could go bad for me. But I needed to get this off my chest.. I hate the judgements that I know will be coming with the confession, and the guilt trips laid at my feet. But part of me is dying to just get it over with and out of the way.

(Screen) Name: anharri1

I am also a Mistress by Lifestyle Choice

I’m 47, have been married twice, and have had 3 long term affairs with married men, 1 of whom I loved deeply and I doubt I’ll ever have that perfect fit again. i have just started an affair with an old work colleague. I only have deep respect for his wife, and never would you hear anything nasty coming from me about her. I am not looking to live with a man again, I don’t want to be in a day to day relationship. We only see the best of each other. I like him, He makes me laugh and He’s a generous lover. While this sort of relationship is full filling in a lot of ways, there are obvious pitfalls….. as the mistress, you have no freedom in the relationship, you have no power, nor control. You have to move within his timeframes. I wouldn’t recommend any woman take this on unless they are confident in themselves, independant and casual in their approach to disappointment. I believe there are parallels in life, roles for everyone. I will always be the mistress and I’m happy with that.

(Screen) Name: LuLu

I am also a Mistress by Lifestyle Choice

I’m 47, have been married twice, and have had 3 long term affairs with married men, 1 of whom I loved deeply and I doubt I’ll ever have that perfect fit again. i have just started an affair with an old work colleague. I only have deep respect for his wife, and never would you hear anything nasty coming from me about her. I am not looking to live with a man again, I don’t want to be in a day to day relationship. We only see the best of each other. I like him, He makes me laugh and He’s a generous lover. While this sort of relationship is full filling in a lot of ways, there are obvious pitfalls….. as the mistress, you have no freedom in the relationship, you have no power, nor control. You have to move within his timeframes. I wouldn’t recommend any woman take this on unless they are confident in themselves, independant and casual in their approach to disappointment. I believe there are parallels in life, roles for everyone. I will always be the mistress and I’m happy with that.

(Screen) Name: LuLu

Dont Know What is lOve

I met a Girl in 9 month before .At initial period we were the good friends. but suddenly a boy came into our life he stolen the best girl from me.Today she hurts me a lot and there is no relationship between us but still i am not able to forget her and i know she hates me a lot and damaged me also from every side but why i am unable to hate her why??????

(Screen) Name: Ashish

Selfish love

Hello… I’m 15 years old, I meet this person which I’m currently in love with about 3 years a half now. We become close to each others, everytime one of us have a problem we’ll talk about it and give advice, but how can I if theproblem I’m having right now is because of him. I tried confessing to him but everytime I do he already have a girlfriend what’s more they’re my friends, then just last year he told me that he finally find the person that he’ll truly love and it turned out to be my very close friend. I smiled and said to him good luck. Then he asked me to help him, I couldn’t refuse. So I did and everytime I helped them and see them being happy my chest always hurts so much like it’s going to burst, but seeing him smiling and being happy is enough for me. Right now we’re not talking to each other and everytime he sees me I’ll ignore me, which it hurts so much I didn’t confesses to him because I’m afraid tht the only thing we have is our friendship and the only way that I could stay by his side is now gone. After she told him that they’ll break up if he still hang around with me…
It would be ok if he said that he hate me directly but ignoring me like I don’t exist is much more painful… I just don’t know what to do anymore…
please,,,, someone :;(

(Screen) Name: lonelyheart187

What is Love?

I’m 17, and don’t know what love is.
I don’t trust that boys want to be with me, every guy I’ve been with has always felt like they were after one thing.
However, there’s one guy I always go back to. He was my best friend at one point, but now we’ve kind of drifted apart. He’s extremely funny, but I never fully felt I could trust him, the last time I dated him, he was really sweet, called me loads and kept telling me he loved me, but then he broke up with me by MSN saying something about another girl – who less than a week later was his girlfriend. After he dumped me he then wrote ‘p.s. I do love you, you know’. Well, obviously not, and it just reinforces my belief that teens cannot know what love is, and makes me feel kinda worthless.
Does love really exist?

(Screen) Name: lonely hearts club