Relationship Confessions & Love Secrets

of all crazy things to happen…I wrote a blog about my best friend who is married, and guess what….the little ass read it! Long story short I literally had to wrestle him to try to stop him, and he still read it! He promised me his wife will never know…but it didnt solve the problem its only made it worse now…because he knows exactly how i feel! I didnt want him to know because i had really hoped to carry on as normal. But now thats hard to do. I just wish he would love me back….but thats never gonna happen, at least not in the way i want it to. He will never leave his wife…and I would be horrible to say i wish he would, because I love his wife to peices, and obviously so does he. Yet im still madly deeply head over heels in love with him and its pathetic! Its hurting my heart in a way I never thought it could, and im lost in what to do…only because the only choice is the obvious…back off and go away, it could only go badly. But i dont want to, i want to be closer…way closer…ok so i want to be how would you put it….skin on skin…what do i do!!! I cant keep going crazy!!!!!

(Screen) Name: jayded

This post was submitted by jayded.

Over the summer I was in a relationship with a previous good friend. Things ended poorly and we dont speak. I still think i am in love with him 6 months later. I am now considering a new relationship with my closest guy friend. He is very into me but I am somewhat unsure of him. what should i do?

(Screen) Name: achotshalom

I have been in a long, on again- off again relationship with my partner for over ten years now. We have a child together no less. However, my partner has mistreated me several times over the years, sometimes stepping into the realms of abuse. I have always loved him but I have been feeling every time we have broken up and gotten back together that my heart has been becoming more and more guarded with him. Like I can never completely love him like I did. I feel guilty for this but at the same time I feel it neccesary because I really don’t feel like I can handle being hurt by him much more. Still, we are engaged and I am trying to be as loving with him as my heart will allow.

My problem is I have always felt a connection with a good friend of mine. We have been friends for 3 years. About a month ago, when I was feeling particularly sad and having a moment where I was considering suicide, I confessed my feelings to this friend. In the 3 years I have known him he has always been there for me and the sound of his voice alone warms my spirits. The friend was shocked but confessed he has always felt something toward me as well. Since then our feelings for each other have only deepened.

Another complication to add to this story is the friend is married himself for over 10 years and has children. Neither of us know what to do about our feelings. We want to be there for each other but are afraid of destroying the lives we have. I don’t want to break my fiance’s heart and he doesn’t want to break up his family. We haven’t acted physically on these feelings yet though we both feel we would like to.

I can’t imagine my life without either of them in it. I never knew life could be so complicated.