I am 26 years old. When I was 19 years old, I met a guy who swept me off my feet. He was funny, good looking, and most importantly he showed a lot of interest. He was always texting me, facebook messaging, and always being romantic with me. He didn’t confess his love because we were in a status of getting to know each other. He introduced me to his friend once, he said that I feel that you two think alike so you know each other. In the beginning I thought she is a close friend, but then I found out that they were neighbors but they only communicated online. She told me to beware because he always uses his magic on girls and that he was even showing her some signs but never asked her on a date. She was expecting that he will ask her out, but then he was coming to see me at my uni but never asked her to see her or something. One time I told him that you are playing both of us but he denied it. He said that’s he is just a friend to him and he used to like her but now he doesn’t anymore because she is thinking bad about him. I used to block him out of my life every 2 months or so because I feel that he is a ladies man, and couldn’t trust him and felt he is not moving forward with a relationship just the I miss u, u are beautiful and thinking about u stuff.
He kept chasing me and playing games, he even told the other girl that he wants a relationship with her “online” and she told him that she will test him for 2 months before she decides. she was copying everything to me and he knows that but I knew later that he was using this method so I reply to him because he knows that we were always discussing him and formed a team against him.
The problem is that he kept making me fall for him by being romantic, texting me every 10 mins, but I was always doubtful that this was real love. I wanted him and everytime I meet a new guy who are more established and older than him with jobs and a better future, I couldn’t feel the same spark that I had with him. I was trying so hard to forget him and shut him out of my life because I felt he is not right and maybe he just wants sex from me.
The chase game continued for like 2 years and a half until he confessed his love to me in the most romantic way, and we made out for hours very passionately. Then, after couple of weeks he asked if we could go to his apartment but I refused. he knows that I am not willing to have sex before marriage, but he said that we won’t do it just to make out in private.
the breakup: he was insisting that I come over and I had finals at the time, I was joking so I said ya ok I am coming. I thought he knew that I was joking and he stopped texting me seemingly he was preparing the mood. Then he seemed serious about the time that we will meet to to go together so I continued with this prank and made him go a long way to meet me and I was at home. When he reached there he couldn’t find me and he was soo angry and I stopped picking up the phone so he was mad at me and sent me a message that I am a snake and stuff like that. so I blocked him on everything and I was happy that I got a revenge and instead of him playing me I played him and told our common friend and laughed about it.
I loved him but I thought this guy is a player and I don’t want to be just another girl. He was crazy after 1 month and begged to talk to me and he said he will accept whatever I say and he just wants us being together even if we don’t kiss and he forgives me because I lied to him and he was angry because he was preparing the whole day and stuff. I didn’t reply and stayed strong and I met another man and I was going out with him and he was super classy and wanted a serious relationship with me. I didn’t have the same spark but I want someone who genuinely cares for me. We got engaged 3 months later. My ex knew and he was devastated and told me that I am insane because I am going to leave the guy because I don’t love him. he said this time I will not chase you anymore, you will have to come back to me or it is over. afterwards, he told me via facebook that he wants to see me one more time, and I didn;t agree staright away but after several attempts I told him okay but with 2 other friends because I am engaged. We met but we didn’t speak of anything concerning what happened with us because we were not alone but he was just looking at me the whole time and he drove us home and that was it.
He then sends me greetings on birthdays and that’s it he doesn’t try to make me leave my fiancée or anything. he asks our friend about me if I am happy or not and sends me greetings with her. When I got married 2 years later he congrats me and he tells me that he is traveling for work because he graduated ( he didn’t use to study and he failed a lot of classes but after we left each other he was concentrating on his studies) He wasn’t religious at all and I was always telling him that he has to change. Now he has done everything that I told him to but when I am not with him, he changed a lot to the better. It bothers me because I was talking to him for years to change, but when he leaves me he changes for the better.
He once sent me an email asking my advice for marriage and I told him it is a good idea if u are sure you found her, but not just to get married with anyone just for the sake of it. months later, he got engaged to a girl ( on valentine this year) who used to love him, and I was very jealous. He sent me an email less than a week later telling me that he got engaged and why didn’t I congrats him? I told him congratulations and I wish u a happy life together. Then he replied that she is so beautiful and a good person just like u (me) . it has been like 10 months now and he never asked about me or sent me an email to update me with his news or anything….
All I wanted is this person that he is now! why was he a player with me and now he settled down and he is just 26. he used to say that he won’t get married before 30 at least. and why did he care for my opinion and why didn’t he leave me alone until he really broke my heart