Are we designed to Cheat?

One of the main concerns most people have when it comes to a romantic relationship, is whether or not their partner will stay faithful to them. We often never stop to ask ourselves if we will be able to stay faithful to our partners, but instead shift all our focus on our partners, as if they are the only one who will face that temptation.

Do all people cheat eventually? Is it an evitable act that is sure to happen sooner or later because we are designed by nature to mate with a lot of partners to reproduce?

There is bad and good news here. Like life in general, relationships come with a package of both bad and good things. Positive and negative go hand in hand in life and it is something we all have to learn and accept as a part of our lives. Rather than fight it, we should embrace both the good and bad that comes into our lives and use it to help us grow wiser and achieve a truly healthy and solid that can truly be based on honesty, trust and understanding.

The truth is, we all will feel attracted to several people in our lifetime. Some of us will feel attracted to a lot of other people, while the rest will only feel attracted to a selected few. Regardless of which one you are, the point is- we all feel attracted to other people besides our partner. Does this mean we will all eventually be unfaithful? No, not at all! It does, however, mean that temptation will come around every now and then and it is the responsibility of both partners to recognize those temptations when do they come along, so they can be dealt with in the best way possible.

Humans are designed, like animals, to reproduce. We encounter certain people that arouse our interest and find ourselves feel attracted to them. We are all naturally programmed by nature to find people we feel drawn to physically, so we can then mate and reproduce. This is not something we are aware of and think about when we are looking at someone that catches our eye, but this is what is happening.

So what keeps people from cheating and staying faithful? Love, respect and discipline are the keys. We also may have certain religious beliefs that taught us you stay with one partner forever and never stray- even in our fantasies. If you are not religious, you may have certain moral standards about relationships and just believe that a commitment means just that- committing to one person and that person only. Regardless of why you choose to stay faithful, the point is- we as a society have programmed ourselves that being faithful is the way to go and is the right way to go about it. This is wonderful and is not bad at all, but it does explain why cheating is a common problem in relationships too. When you take nature’s ways and try to suppress it with man made conditioning, there are sure to be conflicts and obstacles. This does not mean that everyone will eventually cheat on each other, but it does mean you have to choose your partners wisely. It is important that you get involved with people who believe in the same things you do. So if you have a strong belief in monogamous relationships and really look down on cheating and it is something you will not tolerate, then you should get together with someone who sees the same way. This decreases your chances of being cheated on. Of course, there are no guarantees ever in life, but there are steps you can take to build the kind of romantic relationship you believe is right for you.

Staying realistic about the way humans behave will help you relax in a relationship too. For example, while you and your partner may stay faithful to each other always, it does not mean you will feel attracted to other people. Feeling attracted to others has nothing to do with love and therefore does not mean that you or your partner is no longer attractive or good enough. Attraction is a normal thing we all feel to different people and often light flirtation takes place too. As long as the flirtation stays casual and light and does not cross the line, there is nothing to worry about. You will know the red flags when you see them, but I the meantime, you and your partner should relax and enjoy your relationship to the fullest. Focusing on the relationship and working on it together rather than spending your time worrying about who is cheating and who is attracted to whom is best and will strengthen the bond between you and your lover, reducing the likeliness of any of you cheating, because there will be enough love and respect to help each other to not cross that line.