I was divorced for about a year and I was not having much luck getting back on track. I was feeling like I was never going to get over my exwife. I had been married for 17 years and oneday my exwife just came home and said that she was not in love with me anymore. I was crushed,she was my world and I could not imagine loving another women. I had always wanted to go to Las Vagas. I did not really have any friends that could go with me so I booked a trip and went to Las vagas for 5 days. The first day I spent the whole time gambling in my Hotel. The second day I decided to explore the strip so I walked almost the whole strip. It was raining and almost snowing so it was not a great day to be out. I decided to take the bus (Duce) back to my Hotel and do some more gambling. I looked for a bus stop and a bus was just pulling up. It was packed and there was not enough room for me so I waited for the next bus. Thank GOD!!! The next bus came in a few minutes and i got on and it was also packed. we stopped at the next stop along the way and people got off the bus and people got on. As the people were getting on I noticed this good looking woman getting on the bus with her mom. The bus was packed and she was in the standing room only. The next stop people got on and off and the people next to me got off and the women with her mom i noticed sat down next to me. I looked at her out of the corner of my eye and she was amazing looking. she was mid 30s dark hair slim very distinctive features of a South American women. She looked at me and asked me directions for the show her and her mom were going to see. I did not have a answer for her but I helped her look on her map and I helped her figure it out. From the moment I saw her come on the bus I could feel a attraction from her. her stop was the next stop and I only had about 20 seconds to say something to her and ask her out. I looked at her and said do You want to go to a show with me tomorrow? she said sure. OH MY GOD!!! I was flying. Then she said but…. OH NO!!! She said I am with my mom. I looked past her and looked at her mom and her mom did not speak a word of english. I said oh thats OK she can come with us. The bus stopped and she was getting off the bus. All the people within 5 feet of us were listening to us. the pressure was on and she did not speak english all that well either. I was thinking quickly and i said I will pick you up at your hotel where is it, She named off her hotel and I said I will meet you in the lobby at 6pm ok. She said ok and she got off the bus in a hurry, i did not have her name or Phone number all I had was a hotel. So the first thing i did when I got back to my hotel, the Stratosphere was look up her Hotel. I did not find it anywhere it did not exist. I looked and looked and asked people and now one had heard of it. I did not give up though. I looked in the phone book and found the words of the Hotel she gave me but it was condos not a hotel and it was about 10 miles off the strip. I thought is was a lost cause but I did not have much to do and I really wanted to see her again. So the next day i took the bus to find the hotel/condo. it took me 2 hours and 4 transfers to get there but I found the name of the place she gave me. i found a front lobby where i told her I would meet her and i really hoped this was the place but I was not sure. It was about 12 noon so I went back to my Hotel and gambled for awhile. I went back to my room about 4 and took a shower and got all ready. I took a cab to the Hotel that she said she was at. i went to the lobby and prayed I was in the right spot. There were about 10 different buildings and maybe several offices. I sat there for about 15 minutes and right at 6 i looked up and there she was with her mom. The relief I felt was incredible. She got a smile on her face and I am sure I did also and I walk over to her and said Hi I found you. We got a cab and went to my Hotel because that is where the show was. We had a great time and spent the evening together. I sent her and her mom home in a taxi and got her room number and her name and her phone number this time. We spent the remainder of our time together in Las vagas. The next night we went dancing together and i got my first kiss that night. I wanted to take her back to my room alone so bad but she did not think that was a good idea. She is from Ecuador and casual sex is not a word in that country. I think it made me want her more. We spent 4 amazing days together kissing and hugging and seeing many sites together, At the end of our trip she was going to LA to spend the rest of her vacation thru x-mas at Disneyland and California. I could not get her off my mind from that day on. I sent a xmas gift to her Hotel room in LA . A diamond necklace and a digital picture frame to her mom. When she went back to Ecuador we spent every evening talking on the internet and cam. everyday we grew closer to each other and in march we decided that we wanted to take the net step. she is 39 years old and has NEVER been in love before. I found myself writing her poems and telling her my deepest feelings. She told me she had never felt the way she feels for me before. She visited me in the summer for 3 weeks and we had a wonderful time together. We filed for a fiancee visa so she could come here and I could marry her after 90 days if we wanted to. I went to Ecuador for 2 weeks and met her family and they are amazing people. it made me feel like i am part of a family again. it is Nov 23rd 2009 and she is going to be here for good on Dec. 12th 2009 one year after we met a year ago. We are so in love and i can’t wait to marry her. She is a wonderful person. she just graduated with her master degree in June. she is giving up alot to come here. She is giving up her job at Avon. she was a marketing director for Ecuador. She is leaving her family and they are a very close family. We will be married on Dec. 18th 2009 and we will have our wedding in Feb.2010 so her family can come here and we will have plenty of time to plan. I am the happiest man alive right now. I have found a wonderful women and i was not really looking. I never thought that I would fall in Love again but i did. I think to myself of all the things that had to happen for me to meet her that day. i really did get Lucky in Las Vagas. Thank You

(Screen) Name: zentzman

I am young of twenty and have 1 kid, a boy. About a year ago, I knew a man 8 months (Online). He was married, and I took him seriously. Because I thought he was very nice..

My boyfriend died some time ago. I was heartbroken, and finally my sister persuaded me to come back to my old home town. A short time after, I met this man again.

He told me that. he is separated from his ex wife (Filipina), and that he had two children to take care of. He is still married, and living alone at his apartment and working to support his children. We have seen quite a lot each other lately (Online Cam), and are very fond of one another.
But here is the problem:

He had promised his wife not to marry again, because she did not want the children to be unhappy. She had seen so many children made unhappy by step parents, and thought it would be better if he remained single.

But I am sure that I would be good to his children. My boy is fond of him, and he seems like them a lot. I think he trusts me, hates to break his promise. I’m lonely for companionship, and believe we could be happy together and make his children happy. My son and him know each other, and often play together (On cam); they seem to get along all right.

Please tell me what to do about the whole thing. I hate being left in mid-air, not knowing what is what, or how to plan for the future.

*My thoughts*

* It was rather a strange promise for me to make, and it was not right of this wife to expect him to keep it. Marriage vows say, “until death do us part.” They do not actually bind a person to eternal loneliness if one marriage partner leaves this world.

But since I feel as he does, I doubt whether I would be happy if I did marry him. The memory of his first wife would probably always come between me, and if something went a little wrong, he might be prompted to compare me with his first marriage partner.

However, if he feels that he cannot break his promise, and that it binds him unconditionally, then it would be better for me to see him less often and have other friends, and meet some fine man who would be eager to give me and my son a home.

I talk things over with my friend; after that I will be able to decide whether I should keep on going with him, or find someone who isn’t bound by a promise not to marry again.

(Screen) Name: Lilibeth