Bad boy with trust issues

[scrimp210]

im 26 and shes 19, i dont like the age difference at all but i truly feel and believe i can be happy with her, i used to be a playa, i used to have alot of bad habits...ive never been able to trust anotha girl, until i meet her...all my life ive been ghetto and those are the kinda girls ive known...and some time in the military, i realized there other girls out there...but one has got my heart, i see so much goodness in her, its almost unreal...and its brought the goodness out of me too...i can trust her, she has morals, she has goals in life, she has a good heart, kind and understanding, everything, she has everything i can ever want/need in a woman...i grew up severly poor, bad people, bad habits, bad family...but i always felt i can be better, my life was crazee, but i know i can be honest and good...she makes me that...it is long distance for now...weve been talkin since may 07...the longest ive ever had anything to do wit a girl...

but she kinda likes the bad boy thing...i can understand, alot of girls do...but i can change, i want to change, i want to be better...i hope she can realize that...

i do trust her wit my heart, but shes so beutiful and sexy...she gets alot of attention from other guys...i know life is crazee and anything can happen, but i hope she doesnt make a mistake...sometimes i think im waiting for her to make a mistake...?...

i know there are women out there that can be trusted, but honestly...those are RARE...i know, from experience...ive made alot of mistakes in the past im not proud of...but life can be really crazee for some people...and i know it wont be easy to find a woman i can trust if me and her dont work out...

trust is not the only thing important to me, i believe in being happy too, but trust has always been an issues for me...

[bunnyfufu]

i am on the other side, i am the good girl with the bad guy. he says the same thing you say, so my question to you, (since i am too chicken to ask him) ... you said she is pretty and gets a lot of attention from guys, i just wonder if you are afraid YOU will mess up and cheat? my bf tells me that he has cheated on every girl he has ever been with but he has changed because he wants to be with me, yet he is on the internet all day looking at porn, and chating with other girls. one girl he even said he wondered what it would be like to wake up with her .... PLEASE PLEASE don't take this as a slam on you or anything. i don't even know you and i am not saying you do this ... but if the shoe fits ... lol.

i am not 100% perfect either, i cheated on my ex-husband with my bf now, so i know he has a reason to have trust issues too. i am just wondering thought if it is ourselves that we don't trust, or if we really don't trust them. i say if they don't give you any reason to not trust them, then i think you should trust them. i don't think i have given my bf any reason since we have been together not to trust me, but he still doesn't.

i am not sure if this has helped at all, i can sympathise with you because i have turmoil over this everyday. if you ever do find that missing piece that makes you feel better, like those words that she says that makes you trust her, please tell me. i would love for him to trust me, and in turn, i would love to trust him, completely. you cannot have a GREAT relationship with out trust.

good luck, and always remember ... eventhough it may not work out, there are still good girls out there!