I Badly Need Some Good Advise

[Nanliza]

I have been in a relationship with a 27 year old man for 6 months. We met in an online chat room. I am 46 years old, married for 15 years and have two children ages 8 and 9,5. My marriage has not been happy and my husband is verbaly abusive to me, but is a very good provider. When I had my first child he made me stop working and I have now been dependant on him for 10 years. My online friend and I have fallen in love, have spent many long hours talking on msn and have gotten to know each other well. I have started divorce proceedings about 4 months ago, and during which time my husband and I went to councelling together, unsucessfully for 8 weeks. My friend is a refugee from Iraq, living in Denmark and is in his first year studying. He is in no position to take care of me and the children, but is prepared to move to my country to live with me once I am divorced. I will recieve some money from my divorce but life will not be easy for me in the future. My husband has also threatened to leave the country to avoid paying maitenance for the kids. He has frigtened me into a reconcilliation at the moment, as he doesnt want to loose any of his money. I have been trying but it is hard as I dont have many good feelings left for him. I want the comfort of my home and to not disrupt my little childrens lives but I also see that if I leave him I have a chance at happiness with someone else, although there is a large age gap. I dont know what is the right thing to do. My husband is an honerable person, intelligent, a good businessman and honest. But he has always been unkind to me with the careless things he says. My online boyfriend is very kind and caring and patient with me. Who must I choose and what must I do?

[blupinapple]

oh i know i dont have much experience in life, but your kids!
i know its hard to tear away from love and happiness but you have to be responsible for their future! can you really not wait a little longer? Wait till your children have grown to understand you and the situation they're in. Your husband is a heartless man if he threatened NOT to take responsibility for his own children. But do it for your children They're too young!

[gsabas]

First of all i would like to suggest you that leave that boy he is toooo young . Try to care about your husband your children don't spoil your children life.

[stefanie]

i prefer that you choose your husband than that young man because someday maybe he will realize that your the one who ruined his happiness or maybe he will fall out of love for you in the future. You need to understand your husband he's working hard for you and for your children. You never knew what they feel so talk to him and ask him.

[gsabas]

So what have you decided.