The Love-Session Team finds out!

When we think relationships, we automatically also think and assume monogamy. As a society, we have learned one person per relationship, which means we find someone we feel strongly for, get to know them for a little while and then focus on building a relationship with them- and only them.
This all sounds beautiful and like the perfect plan, but can it really work for a lifetime or at least for a very long period of time?
The answer to that is not standard; it really depends on both the beliefs and personalities of you and your partner.

We did a poll asking both men and women whether they felt monogamy was a natural thing where we would naturally want to be monogamous in a relationship, or if was a choice intentionally made in order to make their relationships work.

The Answer?

While it really does depend on the person and the personality they carry, we found that the majority of MEN and WOMEN asked confessed that monogamy is something most of them want, but that it requires real work and effort to make that happen in a relationship. Most men and women actually believed that while monogamy is something they wanted and craved in a relationship, they do not believe it is something that happens so naturally, or even easily.
Those who participated in our Poll said that temptation and the feeling to stray is more natural than the feeling to stay monogamous, but when you feel real love for someone, you want to make that effort to stay committed and faithful.

So while monogamy is certainly possible and successful, it does require work since it is more of a choice rather than something we can do so naturally and effortlessly.

Here are just some comments from some of the men and women we asked to participate in this poll (names have been listed as it was requested by the commenter):

“ I definitely believe monogamy is a choice rather than natural. It is just not realistic to believe that we will forever feel drawn to only one person the rest of our lives”- Adam,  male 36- Chicago, IL.

“I really believe in true love. I believe there is a special connection we make with someone that we will make with no other. But temptations can come along, so I guess monogamy is a choice instead of natural.”- Julie- female 23, San Francisco, CA.

“To me, it depends on the person. Some are more faithful and loyal by nature than others. I am a real committed and faithful type by nature, so I believe others are naturally like that too. “- Ellie- female 40, Seattle, WA.

“Monogamy is a choice. I always found that being monogamous required effort. It takes real work to make a relationship last. Having to work at being monogamous does not mean your relationship is not based on true love either- it’s just being real.”- Dan T. , male 29, Los Angeles, CA.

“I say choice versus natural. We go on instinct like all living creatures, so we will always find other people attractive and will feel tempted along the way, but it does not mean we have to follow through on it. Having real love and respect in a relationship is stronger than those passing moments of lust, but you have to choose to be monogamous.”- Brian, male 52, Austin, TX.

“ I guess I would say choice, though I would like to believe it is natural. I think most of us are naturally monogamous when we find love that is real, but those who have not had real love can disrespect others relationships and lure them into straying, since we all have our weaknesses and can have a slip.”- Kassie, female 26, New Jersey

“It’s a choice for sure! Nothing as beautiful as a deep and rare love comes easy. You have to be willing to make all the efforts in order to make it work. To assume that love will effortlessly stay happy and healthy with no temptations and issues will only get you a broken heart. Monogamy is a choice, but when those efforts are made to stay committed to each other, you can have such a great and loving relationship. “- Cate M. , female 48, New York, NY.